When you chose to remain single for the rest of your life, do you have the right to be bitter about it later on? Do you blame others for your current predicament or do you accept your fate wholeheartedly?

I visited a grand-aunt last week. This is the grand-aunt with whom I spent most of my pre-teen years with. I love her dearly. She took care of me when my parents were busy with my younger siblings. I was actually pampered and was treated very well when I was at her home.

She remained single, never marrying because the person she intended to marry before was someone her parents never approved of. It was a complicated matter. She came from a very old-fashioned family and well, in the 50′s, parents rule was the law. So they never got married. The guy even remained single as well.

When I visited her last week, I detected bitterness in her voice. Oh, I’ve been noticing this before, especially when she’s in one of her moments, when she talks about the one man she loved. The bitterness appeared when she was looking at the little girl with me. She was thinking that her life would have been much more fun and happier if she had a little girl with her as well.

She doesn’t blame others for what happened to her. In fact, she doesn’t regret anything at all. She just wishes that she could have done something. Probably, made her life different than what it is now.

It made me realize that I should not let life pass me by. I have a choice of participating in life and not just watching from afar, always on the safe corner. Life should never be like that. Or else, I might end up old, somewhat lonely, a bit bitter, and full of what ifs and what could have beens.

Filed under: Old Soul